Recently I’ve had some time to pause and reflect inwardly and in doing so, I’ve come to realize some lessons I’ve learned in my young life so far that have shaped me into the person I am today. I originally intended to put these in writing for myself to go back to time to time, but as I began writing I realized that maybe other people can can benefit from these lessons. So I decided to start a new weekly blog series and release 3 lessons every week.
1. “I don't know'' is an acceptable answer
There isn’t anybody in this world who knows everything so you shouldn’t pretend that you do. I often used to find myself talking out of my ass whenever someone asked me a question I didn’t know the answer to. Rather than just admit that I didn’t know, I would try to give the best answer possible when in reality, admitting I didn’t know was the best answer. Don't be afraid to say 'I don't know".
2. Don't dwell on the past
We have all had something not go our way and want nothing more but to be able to go back and change things. No matter how badly you might want to though, you can't change what got you into your current situation. All you can do is acknowledge the situation, and figure out a way to fix it and move forward. Now, this does NOT mean that you should just never be upset and have no emotions about your situation. On the contrary, It is important to allow yourself the time you need to feel upset, sad, or whatever emotions you may be feeling but once you're done, it's time to figure out your path forward. Of course I understand this is easier said than done in a lot of situations, but once you teach yourself to accept that you can't change the past, moving forward becomes so much easier.
"Every second you dwell on the past you steal from your future. Every minute you spend focusing on your problems you take away from finding your solutions" - Robin Sharma
3. Easy choices = Hard life, Hard choices = Easy life
If there is one lesson you take away from this blog series, let this be it. This is one of my favorite sayings and it's something I try to live my life by. Essentially what this means is that if you make the "easy" choices right now such as not doing an assignment or spending money you don't need to, you are setting yourself up to have a "hard" life later on. And Vice versa, If you make the "hard" choices now such as saving money, staying on top of your classes, working out, etc. you're setting yourself up to have an "easy" life.
Every time I need to make a decision, especially important ones, I ask myself: "Am I choosing this because it's the best option, or because it's the easiest?". I guarantee you, adopting this mind set will have an enumerable affect on your life and will set you up to have a successful and "easy" life.